Polyamory/Ethical Non-Monogamy Resources


Leveled Up Love Poly Support Community

Are you poly, practicing ethical non-monogamy or interested in exploring these and looking for a community that can provide non-judgemental support along your journey? What is unique about Leveled Up Love compared to some other poly facebook groups is that it aims to help people address psychological barriers to happily practicing ethical non-monogamy, such as healing from trauma, unhelpful attachment styles, and culturally conditioned jealousy, shame and guilt. By becoming a VIP member, you have access to monthly workshops from professionals of various practices to help you directly work on building your psychological tools to level up in your own relationships.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/leveleduplove/

Books about Polyamory/Ethical Non-monogamy

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

Tristan Taormino

This book includes excerpts from over a hundred interviews with folks and is a good guide for exploring many different ways of practicing non-monogamy, including benefits and challenges. Tristan also has many

https://bookshop.org/books/opening-up-a-guide-to-creating-and-sustaining-open-relationships/9781573442954

The Ethical Slut; A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures

Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

A great read for anyone that wants to explore navigating non-monogamy of any type. This book offers concrete "tools" and exercises to try to navigate conversations related to non-monogamy such as handling jealousy, childrearing, boundaries, and sex and sexual health.

https://bookshop.org/books/the-ethical-slut-third-edition-a-practical-guide-to-polyamory-open-relationships-and-other-freedoms-in-sex-and-love-revised/9780399579660

Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships

Mark A Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Not sure what kind of relationship is right for you? This book is a handy and relatively short guide to navigating different types of relationships.

https://bookshop.org/books/designer-relationships-a-guide-to-happy-monogamy-positive-polyamory-and-optimistic-open-relationships/9781627781473

When Someone you Love is Polyamorous

Elisabeth Sheff, PhD

Did someone you love come out to you as poly and you are looking for guidance in what this means and how to respond? Or, are you struggling with how to come out as poly or non-monogamous to family and friends? This is the perfect book for you.

https://bookshop.org/books/when-someone-you-love-is-polyamorous-understanding-poly-people-and-relationships/9780996460187

The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes

Stella Harris

Are you considering adding a third person to your relationship or sex life but don't know where to start? Or are you at a loss at how to respond to your partner's fantasies or desires for group sex? This book will help you navigate difficult conversations, set and respect boundaries, and safely find that third or indulge in those fantasies even while keeping the relationship closed.

https://bookshop.org/books/the-ultimate-guide-to-threesomes/9781627783071

Useful Web Resources about Polyamory

Polyamory Weekly

This website has a plethora of useful information from FAQs about polyamory to books, podcasts, online forums, and poly-friendly providers. Polyamory weekly's podcast is one of the most entertaining and informative podcasts about polyamory out there.

http://polyweekly.com/

The Bonding Project

This is a short and helpful test for discovering what your "bonding" style is. It will tell you if you are comfortable or challenged with bonding styles that are one to one, one to many, many to many, or solo.

https://www.bondingproject.com/team

Children of Polyamorous Families: An Empirical First Look

Elisabeth Sheff and Mark Goldfeder

This research article questioning societal views about how polyamory harms children and women is very interesting and easy to read. Eli Sheff is one of the foremost researchers on polyamory, including conducting the only longitudinal studies on polyamorous families. You can download it as a free PDF here.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/279456619_Children_in_Polyamorous_Families_A_First_Empirical_Look